Counting down to 30

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There is no greater feeling like looking back at your life and realizing how far you’ve come. I reminisce a lot, not because i have a lot of time on my hands but because counting my blessings gives me joy. Often times we get carried away by our troubles and frustrations which eventually lead to depression. The world is already full of sad events, let’s not make things worse. We all should take a chill pill, relax and enjoy life. Be happy regardless of our individual circumstances.

There are so many reasons to be happy, for example; the gift of life, family, friends, laughter, good health, shelter, food, water, peace, love, career, etc. they are too many to be listed here. If you are depressed, sad or going through a tough time, please drop it and look forward to brighter days ahead. No one will make that choice for you except you!

It is normal to get upset sometimes but at the end of the day we should not let that rob us of the excitements that come with being happy people. I have experienced terrible times of betrayal from people i hold dear to my heart, and i threw the longest pity party for myself till there was no strength or tears left in me. One day i asked myself if it was even worth my energy and time, as you know the answer was and still is an obvious ‘NO’. That was the moment i decided i would live a fulfilled life and keep being the cheerful happy-go-lucky girl i was when i was much younger.

So far it has paid off, i’ve lost so many friends but i gained few others that i wouldn’t trade for the world. One thing i cherish in life is loyalty and that is because i am loyal to a fault. I however, learned over the years not to expect such an expensive virtue from people who do not understand its concept. One of my aunts would always say ‘blessed are those who do not expect, for they shall not be disappointed‘.

20 days to my 30th birthday and i say ‘NO’ to every form of negative energy around me. I choose to live, love and laugh in peace like never before. It is time for me to take good care of myself for me and my family, i intend for my son to have happy memories growing up (so help me God). Memories he will take with him for life till he starts his own family.

I still have a lot  to accomplish as long as i am alive ad healthy. That is, new people to meet, new places to visit, achieving my career goals and so much more. This is just the beginning for me, i have never felt so fresh and driven to succeed like i do now. I hear 30 is the new 20 (LOL, I wish).

On this note, i wish to announce that i will be embarking on a ketogenic lifestyle journey soon. I have been overweight for so long, i feel this is the best time for a change or rather, a transformation from the inside out. I will be updating you on my progress and i will also try to post recipes alongside photos of my meals. So stay tuned for that, i will need all the encouragement and motivation i can get.

Did i also mention my son and i will be going home to hubby soon for the summer break?! We are so excited to be reunited after almost six moths of being apart (some of the sacrifices families of military personnel make, but we do it with love). Thanks for reading guys.

Until next time, stay safe and happy. Remember YOLO!

Life lessons

I guess we all know what a rose flower looks like. Beautiful as it is, it has thorns regardless of it’s colour and beauty. That is how life is, not everyday is going to be happy. Everyday comes with surprises, the pleasant and not so pleasant ones.
Ever wonder why people get hurt each time something doesn’t go as planned despite knowing from the beginning that there’s only a 50/50 chance of a positive outcome? One never gets used to disappointment, it’s a natural phenomenon.

The thorns on a rose doesn’t stop it from being beautiful so why let disappointment hold you back from being your best?!! I have learned some lessons from my few years of life, I hope it helps someone realize they’re not alone.

  1. People you trust will hurt you in the worst ways you can imagine, deal with it. It’s your decision to make as to wether to stay away from the negative energy, keep enduring or let them know how you feel and make peace.
  2. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Personally I believe whatever terrible experience I go thorough teaches me lessons I wouldn’t have learned otherwise. And every challenge I go through is an opportunity to learn something new. This realization helps me stay sane 😀.
  3. People tend to make promises they can’t keep when they are happy. Try not to get your hopes up, else you end up disappointed. Keep an open mind always and ensure you have a plan B just in case 👌. Remember to be as realistic with your expectations as possible while you give room for error.
  4. Never ever assume, always ask questions. Verify your facts before acting on them. Being silent about issues affecting your peace will only get you depressed. Speak up no matter how controversial the topic is and save yourself some stress. 
  5. They say forgive and forget. I say forgiving is the easy part, forgetting is where the work lies. Just try to be patient with people, you’ll get over it someday somehow but don’t lose yourself in the process.

Life is a journey we all are opportuned to go on only once. It’s important to make it count, occupy yourself with things that make you happy. Make wise decisions. Be kind, you never know when you’ll require to be treated as suçh. How we behave to others has a funny way of coming back to us when we least expect it. 

Until next time, be happy!💃💃💃